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Self defence is the Key to Success for Every Professional Girl

Today’s dynamic girls are always ready to work at any time and any place. But for that, they should always be prepared to protect themselves from the outside world. The working professional women may have to travel long distance for their work at any time, maybe late at night as well. They need to go out of the station and stay there for a couple of days or week. They need to travel alone or maybe with a male colleague.  The recent years have never been so safe for working women anywhere in India. Neither male counterparts are safe, nor the taxi or auto drivers. So what should you do for self-defence?

Frankly, if you are well-trained marshal art performer, you can handle their physical harassment better compare to normal girls. So what a not-trained, not-so-strong girl can help her self in some strange situations? Imagine if you are alone in the Lift of any high rise building with a stranger at late night, what will you do? The best you can do is using your smartness. When you enter the lift and you want to go, suppose, to the 13th floor, press all the buttons of the lift so that lift will stop at each floor. This will prevent a stranger to harass you.

What you should do when you are alone at home and a stranger attacks you?

Immediately run in the kitchen. You know where you have kept red chili powder, turmeric powder, knives, and glass plates. These are the best weapons that are always available with you when you are at home.  If you can’t do anything, throw all of these things on that person and start shouting at the top of your voice. Remember, your shouting will be your first approachable weapon if you are living in an apartment, as the person will be afraid of being caught by someone.

When you are traveling alone by Auto or Cab at night?

At the time of sitting in the cab or auto, make sure to give your vehicle’s number to your friend or relative over the phone in the language which is understandable by that driver. While traveling you keep on talking on the telephone with someone, if not, pretend that you are talking with someone and also informing where you are and on which route you are heading so that driver cannot dare to take you at that unsafe place.

What if a cab/auto driver takes you to the route, where you don’t have to go and you think that it will create a problem for you.

At that time with the help of your purse belt or dupatta snatch his neck which will make him helpless. If you don’t have dupatta or belt then don’t worry, snatch his shirt’s collar and it will do the same job and that will give you the time to run away.

If someone is running behind you late night?

Get into someone’s home or shop. If shops are not open then rush to an ATM, as ATMs have cc tv cameras which will capture the culprit’s photo and this kind of people are not ready to bear such things.

We cannot wait for police to come and save us immediately in any such worst situation. This is all about our own self how well we can defend. Don’t stop your growth by being afraid of someone. Live your professional life ‘bindaas’. Better learn self-defence and move forward!

How to Keep Your Mood Happy at Office with Music

How to Keep Yourself Happy With Different types of Music

Our lives are very well connected to music. It is said the music has the ability to change the psyche of a person based on the music. Even music has the power to cure many diseases. Everybody cannot be a good singer or a good instrument player but they can be a good listener! Listening to good music can keep a person happy and healthy from the mind. You can keep yourself happy by listening to different types of music even in the workplace.

Listening music at workplace
Listening to music at the workplace
Keep musical instrument at your office
Keep musical instrument at your office
Music generates good thoughts
Music generates good thoughts

Our mythological stories, also suggest that we should play musical instruments even when going for the war. Any good leader trains his/her soldiers and disciplines them with the help of music instruments. Even today our soldiers always have a band of music players. These music players compose tunes in such a way that uplift the mood of the soldiers. The sound of drums and horns always enhance their enthusiasm and motivate them to be alert and ready to attack the enemies of the country.

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But music makes the magic only when a person has the idea about what type of music she should listen at a particular time.  Randomly putting on television, radio or music players will not help. To choose the type of music at a particular time and mood will definitely make sense.  So first decide what kind of mindset you want to create and then go for the music. AT workplace, you can increase your productivity by listening to good music while working. In some companies, constant music is played just to keep the team members happy! Such companies always have a very good work culture.

Keep Yourself Happy
Music keeps the workplace a happy place
Keep Music Apps in Mobile
Keep Music Apps in Mobile
Music helps in concentration
Music helps in concentration

Mornings are always pure. This is the time when our mind is very sensitive, at that time don’t opt for “Dhinchak music” i.e. loud or rock music. It’s better to listen to music that gives peace of mind especially songs of  “Bhairav Raga”. As the day progresses, we get fully charged at that time listening to the music that charges up your pace that matches your inner energy level.  Later in the afternoon, one should think about what kind of mood he/ she wants to make.  If you want to relax your mind, listen to soft music or want to increase the energy, listen to the music accordingly.

Girls believe me Music creates the Magic!!

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Hari Krushna Village – Excellent Place for Family to Visit this Vacation

Our girl gang was thinking about a place where we can go and chill in the summer evening. Though there are many cafe options in Surat, we were looking for a place where we could cherish nature in the open air. Fortunately, we were invited by the management of Hari Krushna Village Restuarant to enjoy Kathiywadi food and their hospitality. Situated near Poddar International School, BRTS Canal Road, Near Simada check post, Puna gam road in Surat, a visit to Hari Krushna Village restaurant was a unique experience. It was like going back to traditional days of childhood.  Partying with Girls gang at cafes and multi-cuisine restaurants is very common, but partying with your friends at this place will give you a different feeling! Hari Krushna Village is definitely an excellent place for family to visit this vacation.

girls enjoying at Hari Krushna Village

great fun by girls of girl in neighbour team

The ambiance of Hari Krushna Village restaurant is fully traditional.  They have much different ancient equipment such as Sambelu, valonu, Stone chakki, different metal pots, mitti Chula, clay utensils, etc. Nowadays they are hardly found in our homes. But this restaurant will definitely help us to know our ancient culture. Along with the unique utensils, they have created a very beautiful village atmosphere with the help of well, tire games, marble games, bicycle, a place where one can sit under the trees with their groups and enjoy their time.

Isha with Stone chakki at Hari Krushna Village Restaurant
Isha with Stone chakki at Hari Krushna Village Restaurant
Siddhi using valonu at Hari Krushna Village
Siddhi using ‘valonu’ at Hari Krushna Village
Reshma trying pittal utensils
Reshma trying ‘pittal’ utensils

The heart of any restaurant is food. They serve unlimited traditional cuisines with full of love and happiness. The management of the restaurant gives personal attention to each and every guest so that guests can enjoy their delicious dinner. After the tasty dinner, one can enjoy “Ice Gola” in a traditional way with traditional taste. Your kids can sit out on traditional chaarpaai to enjoy the puppet show. The adults with kids can also enjoy the magic show.

Puppet show at Hari Krushna Village
Puppet show at Hari Krushna Village
Reyansh enjoying ice gola
Reyansh enjoying ice gola
People enjoying magic show
People enjoying a magic show
Reyansh having fun time
Reyansh having a fun time

The restaurant has a big plot where you can play different games with your friends and chill out happily. So guys what are you waiting for? Chill with your Gang in this summer at Hari Krushna Village restaurant. If you are looking for a party venue in Surat, you must consider this place! The address is:

Hari Krushna Village, Near Poddar International School, Plot No 120, Valthan-Punagam Rd, Simada Gam, Surat, Gujarat 395006



Also, check their Facebook page here and also watch this video to know more!

Power of Body Language Seminar by Vanitaa Rawat | Women’s Day Special

After 2 back to back seminars on communication, we decided to go with a seminar on “Power of Body Language” to complement the previous two seminars conducted by Nisrin Lokhandwala and RJ Setu. To empower our Girl in Neighbour community members with the knowledge of Body language, this time, we invited powerful and sensational speaker Vanitaa Rawat. Vanitaa has worked with Bank of America as a Senior Operations Manager in the past managing a span of 500 people across countries like India and Costa Rica. Right now, she is a Neuro-linguistic Programming Practioner and a Life Coach and she provides mentoring and gives coaching to the people on various aspects of life ranging from personal and professional growth and vision. To maintain the balance between body language and emotional stablity in life, this seminar was organized EXCLUSIVE on the occasion of Women’s Day celebration for our community members only. Eventually, the seminar turned out to be great fun and learning experience for all the community members.

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Shruti felicitating Vanitaa

Out of many important points Vanitaa taught to the members, she mainly emphasized on how to carry your self before meeting with the customer. The major points she mentioned were:

1. Do not walk holding a file or a bag in front of your body, above the stomach.

2. You must sit with straight posture on the chair, not to slouch on front. Not even taking the support of the back of the chair.

3. While discussing with the customer, never put your handbag in between two of you, on the table. It creates a hurdle and that gives negativity.

4. To show your confidence, always talk with the customer by maintaining eye contact. It shows your confidence to the customer.

5. Use your hands effectively while communicating. It will again boost your confidence and make your point more convincing.

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Vanitaa talked about the importance of voice pitching also. One should always use voice effectively with body movements. While delivering speech our pitch should not be too low or too high, it should be audible. Keeping voice pitch in control can increase the chance of positive outcome after the meeting. She said, at the time of conversation with someone, one should not be stiff. One should use space to the fullest with full of confidence. Her body should have some movements because body gesture without any movement during conversation is very boring.

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She also emphasized on the pattern of hand-shake with other people. One should hold another person’s hand firm at the time of shake-hand. It will show your interest in that person and at the same time, it will indicate that you are open for a long professional relationship with that person.

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Most of the females in India takes positive complements in other way. Many times it happens that if a male counterpart is giving compliments, females start considering those compliments as a hint of sexual interest but that cannot be the case all the time! While some one is giving you complement accept it with a positive gesture of taking and not throwing it out. You should try to throw the negative comments given to you by someone and stop apologizing as you cannot make everyone happy!

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Her final point to the community females was to stop being a “superwoman” all the time and start enjoying the life to the fullest! She believed in expressing own self in any situation but at the same time, one should keep the things very easy to nurture the relations.

Vanitaa Rawat is the face of Indian females in the society and she inspires many women to live life on own terms. Vanitaa, you are a beauty!

Team of Girl in Neighbour
Vanitaa with the Team of Girl in Neighbour
Marriage Fear

6 Reasons that Keep Girls Away from Marriage Decision

Which one word gives the nightmare to a girl above age 21? If you are thinking the same what most of the girls think then the word came in your mind is correct, it is Marriage. Traditionally it is said that “Shaadi ka Laddu khaye wo bhi pachtaye or na khaye wo bhi pachtaye”. Every girl wants to get marry but at the same time, in some corner of her heart, she has some fear about changes that will occur in her life after the marriage. Today we are living in the modern era, where there is no such big change can happen in any girl’s life but then to changes has to happen. Today let’s have a look at the reasons why girls are facing Marriage Phobia.

1. Fear to lose Independence: In today’s era, we are living in very much free atmosphere, where no one is blind to give any answer to anyone about their life. If a person is single she can come and go anywhere anytime for anything but once you are married, there will be definitely some restrictions for which today’s girls are not mentally prepared to follow.

2. Big Change in Life: When you get two from one, many changes occur in your lifestyle. Sometimes many things have to be compromised, maybe because of your spouse choice or tastes. Girls may have fear of that big change, as she has to leave her own home and has to go to her spouse place.

3. No more pampering: Every girl is the princess of her parents. Brought up of the girls must be full of pampering, so these girls being pampered angel will have a fear that she might not get the same comfort zone at the new place.

4. Career Obstruction: When a girl gets married, obviously her responsibilities will also increase. Or there might be the mindset of some families in a country like India that a girl should not work after her marriage“Hamari Bahu Bahar Kaam Nahi Kar Sakti”. So these girls who are learned and smart cannot sit at home and this leads to the creation of tension for such girls.

5. Commitment phobia: Today’s girls are educated and earning, so these girls have their own choice of living. So they have the fear “what if things do not work properly”?, “what if they don’t compete with one another”?

6. Maintaining the “Marriage Protocol”: As soon as a girl gets married, expectations start from her family like having kids, taking care of them, saving for their education, etc. and thus a girl will have a fear that she may lose her own choice of living.

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8 Ways to Develop Emotional Stability

In today’s stressful life, to be Healthy and Happy one should be emotionally sound. Being a daughter, wife, mom or daughter in law we are the spark or our home. To keep ourselves and our surroundings happy and joyful here are the 8 ways to be emotionally well.

1. Socializing is the best stress buster. Hangouts and holidays with your friends or relatives or any of your circle. When you are with your favourite people you will definitely forget your stress. So be with them and have fun.

2. Learn to say “NO”. If you are not able to say “NO” for anything to anyone, which you can’t do you will be surely irritated and that leads to disturb your mind and make your surroundings stressful.

3. Practice yoga regularly. Studies say that one who practices yoga regularly enjoys a great peace of mind. Her mind will be in her own control, no one can shake her. Prime Minister Mr Narendra Modi is the best example of a mentally stable person who practices yoga every day.

yoga asanas for summer

4. Don’t just overreact to the situation immediately. Whether it is good news or bad news. Try to understand the situation, if it is sad news. Try to go with the flow and tackle the particular time.

5. Don’t feel guilty in small- small things. If any mistake has happened by you, don’t feel ashamed to say sorry. Better put your ego aside and solve the matter. Don’t think yourself as a criminal.

6. Develop some hobbies, whether it is singing, dancing, swimming, drawing or any other of your choice that makes you happy. While performing your duties whether family or professional don’t forget yourself. In a day, spend some time for your own entertainment that makes you happy and fresh.

7. Enjoy every festival with full of zeal. Celebrating festivals traditionally will bring positive energy in you. Don’t avoid the festivals’ celebrations by going away from home just to run away from traditional rituals.

8. Don’t blame others for your failure. No one other than you can make you succeed. Let the bad time go away calmly. Don’t give up and lose your hope, success will definitely touch your feet if you try hard.

Girls don’t forget, Happiness is within You, don’t search Outside!

5 Strong Reasons Why a Girl Should Work after Marriage

A Girl, after her marriage from daughter – she becomes daughter in –law, wife and eventually a mother. And thus she gets so busy in her family responsibilities that she forgets her own dreams. She leaves her work and performs her routine duties.

In a country like India, a daughter is brought up with the thought that her primary duty is to take care of her family after marriage.

But trust her, she has the capability of doing both the things simultaneously i.e. taking care of the family as well as work professionally.

Here are the five strong reasons why a girl should “WORK” ever after marriage.

1. Self-Respect: When a woman curtailed herself from professional life after marriage, she loses her creativity, productivity as well as confidence in herself. Better, she should work, although with time management that will definitely give her self-satisfaction of doing something.

2. Financial Freedom: Although her husband is earning a handsome amount but spending your own earned income gives you different joyful feelings. One will not be dependent on a husband for small things. Even she can do savings for her future necessities.

3. Family Support: All the time is not the same, you never know when the time changes. Working women will definitely give a hand of support to her family at the time of crisis.

4. Role Models for your Children: Parents are always the first teacher of their kids-specially moms. If mom is professionally active, her children will definitely follow her. At the same time mom will always be respected as she is learned and contributing productively in the society.

5. Self-Development: Learning new things means giving oneself a chance to develop. One cannot develop herself only by sitting within the four walls. For her own development, she has to go out and experience new things which help her to develop to the fullest.

Career options available for girls are a Nutritionist, Digital Marketing, Financial Advisors, Company Secretary, C.A., Hospitality, Aeronautics and many others.

So girls, what are you waiting for? Just pull your socks and paint your life with flying colours!

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The Most Precious Gift of God – Kids

Being parents is not an easy job. It requires a lot of patience, understanding, strictness as well as happiness. No human is perfect, so don’t go behind your child to make him perfect. Let us be our children’s best friend.

1. Never compare: Every child has different potential. No human is the same, so never compare your child with anyone else child, this may make your child either violent or depressed.

2. Have two-way communication: Don’t give unnecessary lectures to your kids on small things. If he is listening to you, he will respond to you and if he is not responding to you that means he is not listening to you or ignoring your lecture. Give him a chance to reply you as well as share his views.

3. Read books with them: Books are said to be the best friend of man. Your child will follow your footprints. To make your child read books with them and also discuss the contents of the book that will motivate him for reading books.

4. Teach your kid to face failure: While playing with your kid, never defeat yourself to make him win the game. Because if he does not face the failure from the beginning his future will be dark. So make him understand the reality of life.

5. Try to handle your work pressure: Don’t spoil your home’s atmosphere because of your work pressure as it will create a negative impact on your child’s mindset about your career.

6. Keep the atmosphere of your home happy: Atmosphere of your home plays a very important role in your child’s brought up. If possible try to avoid arguments amongst family members in front of the kids, as it creates a negative impact on the little mind. If you are happy, you will help your child to be more productive.

7. Teach them to develop a good relationship: Every human being is a social animal, so we need people to be with. Teaching your kids to maintain good relations and making friends will make his life happy and comfortable.

8. Allow them to play with mobile and watch television: Watching TV and playing with mobile is not wrong. The only thing we should keep in mind is to restrict the timings. It will definitely help them to upgrade and another thing is, they will not divert to someone else who offer them such gadgets. Better help them to use it productively.

9. Cherish them: Appreciation will motivate them to perform better. Admire them on their good behaviour, good habits  even their small success which will motivate them to do better in the future

Let’s enjoy our child’s childhood!

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Making the Valentine’s Day Valuable for ‘You’

Valentine’s Day is celebrated as a day of love. On this day we give beautiful gifts to our special ones. So this Valentine’s Day, give a precious gift to “You” by fulfilling your unfulfilled Dreams.
Performing household duties is the basic work of any “Homemaker”. Apart from that, every lady has her own dreams, that she forgets. While performing her household duties. Let’s buy to doing something productive that gives you satisfaction. Working does not mean only learning but it’s a matter of creating your own identity so let’s create it.

Valentine Day

1. Boost your Confidence: In the beginning of your career, there may happen that people will not support you or they may discourage you, at that time be your own motivation and get depressed by negativity around you and concentrate on your job.

2. Go ahead with Trust: If God has given you the idea of doing something, he will definitely help you to reach your Goal. Have faith in God as well as in your abilities and move ahead.

3. Do not Hesitate: No work is small when done with “Good Intentions”. There is no specific age of learning. If you have to learn something for your career at this age. Start learning for your betterment.

4. Don’t afraid of Failure: In the beginning, your success rate may be low or you may fail. But your experience will never fail. Try to learn from the failure and fulfil your unfulfilled dreams.

5. Be Positive: Never allow negativity to enter in you. If you have limited time from your household job. Don’t give rather try to manage it at that time. Everything is possible if properly managed.

Boost Your Confidence

6. Don’t think “Log Kya Kahenge”: If what will people think if “I do this or go for studies at this age”. Ignore such things that come to your mind. Do what your heart says, ultimately you are your “Own Boss”. Do what gives you peace and happened.

7. Never Expect: After marriage whole life of a girl will change. There are many families who never stop their daughter in law or wife to do something, at the same time they will not encourage them also. At that time never expert appreciation from them and discourage yourself. Today or tomorrow your work will be appreciated. So, what are you waiting for? Move ahead to fulfil your dreams.

Udaipur – The city of Lakes in Rajasthan is 365 Days Destination for all the Tourists

Udaipur – The city of Lakes and Palaces, known as ‘Jewel of Mewar’ is undoubtedly one of the most visited places in India all 365 days. Irrespective of the season and holidays, people visit this beautiful city with friends and family. Not only that, many solo travelers are the regular visitor to this beautiful city of palaces. The city was founded by Maharana Udai Singh in 1553, on the banks of Lake Pichola. It is claimed to be the most romantic city.

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Jagdish Temple at Udaipur

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Every year, a huge number of tourists visit this beautiful city attracted from its vibrant culture. It is still inhabited by tribals, so we can see the people dressed in Ghagra-Choli with huge silver jewelry, heavy armlets, bangles, anklets,  etc.  During your travel, you will find both kinds of people- those following their old tradition as well as those who have adopted modern culture. Members of Girl in Neighbour visited this place in November 2018 and it was an unforgettable 4 days we spent here. This city is said to be the hub of cultural activities, music and folk dance.  Let’s travel!

Heritage view of City Palace Udaipur
Heritage view of City Palace Udaipur

Delicacies

Your trip will be of more fun when you have yummy cuisines.  Mava kulfi and Malai Kulfi at Bapu Bazar is must to eat for ice-cream lovers.  Kesariya lassi and Rabri is must try dessert at Suraj Pole. One should not forget to try Rajasthani thali i.e Daal Batti, Churma, gatte ki sabji accompanied with masala khichiya and butter milk. Even spicy chaat, shikanji and different kind of namkeens have to be given equal weight.

There are many rooftop restaurants in Udaipur, experience a romantic dinner with a beautiful scenic view with your partner to make your evening beautiful and memorable.

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View of Udaipur from City Palace

Shopping

For shopping lover, none other place is as best as Udaipur. One can spend the whole day shopping at Hathipole. You can opt for pottery, imitation as well as precious jewelry, handicrafts including puppets, wooden boxes, wall hangings, cloth lanterns, antique items, wooden toys,  pichwai paintings, brassware sculptures, clothes with handmade prints, bandhani prints, batik prints and many more.

Places

There are many places to visit when you are in Udaipur. City palace, Jagdish temple, Jagmandir, Vintage Car collection, Gulab baugh, Fateh sagar lake, Lake pichhola, Ambrai Ghaat, Saheliyon ki baadi, Maharana Pratap Smaarak, Haldi Ghaati, Maharana Pratap museum etc. are some of the places you should not miss visiting. Fateh Sagar lake is the perfect place to visit late evening and at night. Enjoy coffee and Maggi at night!

City Palace at Udaipur
City Palace at Udaipur

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Fateh Sagar lake at Udaipur
Fateh Sagar lake at Udaipur
City Palace at Udaipur
City Palace at Udaipur
Jagmandir at Udaipur
Jagmandir at Udaipur
Udaipur - The city of Lakes
Saheliyon ki Baadi
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Maharana Pratap Museum Udaipur
Maharana Pratap Smarak - Udaipur
Maharana Pratap Smarak – Udaipur

Udaipur is a must visit destination in your list for sure. If you have already visited this city, visit again to cherish the old memories and if you have yet not visited, don’t wait and just go before winters are over!!